Confidence
28 Days to Personal Power, life coaching, negative beliefs, Self belief, Self development

Confidence, Empowerment, Commitment

Confidence, Empowerment, Commitment  these powerful words can really frighten some people. The thought of feeling powerful in themselves is so alien they have forgotten how to be.

I know only too well how that feels, to not have the confidence to face the simple things, to feel so disempowered your close to the edge, to not have the ability to commit to yourself, let alone anything else.  Sometimes life can feel like a rollercoaster, you get up in the morning and really want to take charge of the day, but inside you don’t know if you can. The day will either go one of two ways:  You will either say nope… I’m doing this today, and you step into your power. Or… you look at the outside world through your window and say… nope, not today. I just can’t face it.Both of these are perfectly acceptable, it’s life, we have good days. We have bad days. It’s not the end of the world.

The difference is, when you are living a confident, empowering and committed life, you are not focussing on beating yourself up for the bad days Can I work with you? You focus solely on getting through the bad days guilt free. We are human, we get tired, we feel drained and sometimes we just need to re-charge.

To feel empowered is to feel free from the inner critic, to feel confident is to be free from the human self persecution of ‘I’m not good enough’, to be able to commit to yourself means you are free to make those choices that you crave from the inside out.

How did I manage to find my confidence, to empower myself to commit to me? Well… here goes:

1. Release the judgment you place on yourself. Remove all shoulds / coulds and would haves from your vocabulary

2. Refuse to listen to your inner critic! It’s just a bad vibe that has raised its ugly head once to often… your inner critic DOES NOT SERVE YOU. It hinders you and holds you back, it tells you no, you can’t and prevents you from forgiving your past mistakes and yourself.

3. To commit to yourself you must believe in yourself, re-train your brain to find the positives in your everyday life. You ARE worth committing to! Putting everyone else first is no longer an option… it is not selfish, it’s YOUR life.

4. Grab a journal, and start writing every day, once you have written how you feel, what you want and what’s happening around you, re-read those words to yourself… would you say that to your best friend, what advice would you give your best friend?

5. Make a list… one small list every day of all the good things you do, all the small achievements. Have you had a shower today? Brushed your teeth? Combed your hair? These are all very basic, but very much positive achievements to write about!

6. Be kind to you, being kind to yourself and learning to be your own best friend instead of judging, criticising and doubting yourself… is another step towards you living a confident, empowered and committed life

And last but no means least, my final tip for today is to access holistic therapies. I fully promote EFT, Reiki and other holistic therapies as a way to help you re-wire your brain through energetic shifts. Negative energy is all around us and drains us each and every day. Embrace some energy healing and see if you feel a difference in yourself.

Be your own best friend… and if you need help finding your inner best friend, ask for help 💖

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life coaching

Are you really listening?

Are you REALLY listening?

Sometimes there is so much noise in our minds that we can’t hear our own thoughts clearly. We hear the phone, we hear the cars, we hear the tv, we hear the sound of everything little thing in our lives, but we don’t hear what’s going on in our hearts.

When we stop listening to ourselves, we end up in a bit of a funk!

Confused, lost, uncertain, and then we can question our own minds. Because we are no longer connected to our inner voice.

We lose the sense of trust in our own minds.  We lose the faith that we can trust our decisions. BECAUSE WE AREN’T LISTENING!

There’s this quiet voice in the background of our day to lives desperate for us to hear it.

Crying to be heard we then have the joy of dealing with the emotions, almost like a child they kick up they scream and may make us react in ways we don’t like.

So take some time even if it’s once a week to TRULY listen to your heart, your voice, your inner self. What is it trying to tell you?

Have you ignored your intuition lately? The more we ignore our own voice the more complicated life gets.

Learn to listen to you, it’s a magical thing to reconnect ✨

Taking solo walks in nature, or just sitting in silence away from the noise. It takes just a few minutes.

A really lovely and easy exercise is to sit in a garden with a notepad and let your hand just write, you may even find you don’t have to think about it. Just let the hand guide the pen as the words form across the page.

 

 

Share your experience, I’d love to hear from you. I’ve had some amazing answers that I wasn’t looking for come through when I’ve done this. It just flows…

Some people swear by light housework, when we aren’t over stretching our brains, it creates space for peace. 💕

life coaching, Self development

Getting to know you at your core ✨

Getting to know you at your core

It’s so easy to just roll with each day as it comes, and soon those days turn into weeks, months, and then years. As time goes on we lose touch with who we are, what we want, what our beliefs are and what our values are. Our values, beliefs and truth are all about our CORE being. The three most important things we need to know about who we are, can change at any time.

Do you know, where you stand with these 3 topics, Core Beliefs, Values, and Truth:

✨ Core Beliefs 

What are core beliefs? Core beliefs are those things in your head that says this is true to me. Here is an example: It is true to me that I love tea in the morning. Core beliefs can be both positive and negative to our wellbeing and life choices. When we hold a negative core belief this has a tendancy to stop us from doing what we really want to do.  Majority of core beliefs may stem from childhood, things we were taught and things we learnt. Some core beliefs stem from making mistakes. Some core beliefs come from experiences and events.

The main thing to remember is core beliefs are just that, a belief. When we change our belief and challenge it’s negative impact we then have a choice to change our decisions and become unstuck with our life choices.

✨Core Values

What are values? Each and every human being on this planet has different values, as children we are taught different values, as parents we teach our children what we feel are important values. Values we hold within us include: honesty, integrity, discipline, self responsibility and so on. If you can take a moment to think about your values, what would they be and what ones are really important to you? This is where your heart comes in, listen to what feels right for you and establish what your core values are. When you recognise your values it empowers you to do what is right for you.

✨ Truth

Are you living your truth? When you listen to your heart you will see the truth that you want for you life. When you listen to your head it is possible you are listening and following someone else’s truth. What is true for you? Is it true you are stuck in this mundane life and cannot move forward? Is it true to you that you can have that dream boat and make your life what you want? If you can look within to your own truths,

Take a moment to discover your core beliefs, you may find these have changed from what they used to be.

When was the last time you looked at your values? If you assess your values you may discover the path you are on doesn’t match.

Truth? This one can be tricky, your truth, is personal to you. How has that changed over time?

Staying in alignment with your own beliefs, values and truth, empowers you, why?

  •  less things go wrong
  •  more things flow in positive way
  •  reduced stress levels
  •  feel more at peace with life

Stay connected with you 💖 it helps you stay true to who you really are. Not what everyone else wants you to be. You are a unique being, with opportunity, potential and growth in your hands. 🌟

Happy
life coaching, negative beliefs, Relationships, Self belief

When will you decide to be happy?

I wasn’t truly happy…

remembering those days when nothing I did was good enough. Every corner I turned there was another obstacle, another problem, another issue.

My life was based around other people being happy, and when they weren’t happy I couldn’t be. Happy

As life went on, this became a habit. I wouldn’t allow myself to be happy… then I established this old belief that if I ‘get happy’ more s*** would hit the fan! I wasn’t wrong in that belief due to the circumstances I was in. But… as I changed my life, this old habit stayed with me! This old belief wouldn’t go, so for some time I remained unhappy!

There was always something to complain about or be sad about, or be problematic in my life.

This belief was based on experience, I could not allow myself to be happy, as if I was something / someone would come along and crush that  joy within me.

This was a hard lesson for me to learn, for me to be truly happy within, I had to learn ‘how’! Crazy stuff right there! Are you are in this space? Get in touch! 

When you are surrounded by critical people who are unhappy in themselves, you can pick up their traits and adopt these behaviours particularly if you have been around it for some time.

Being truly happy means to be content in your own skin! No longer allowing your flaws to be a problem. EMBRACE the flaws within you... you are a unique being, not part of the crowd and you definitely do not have to ‘fit’ inside their box!

CREATE YOUR OWN BOX

Happy

What makes you happy? Make a list of the things that fill your heart with joy… make a list of the hobbies you do, find gratitude in your life and amazing things start to happen!

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Mumpreneur, Self belief, Self development, self love

Stepping into your goddess power… daunting eh?

Are you afraid of being the true Goddess you are?

I can’t speak / write for every other female in the world, but I am assured I have hit the nail on the head with this one… bare with me.

What do you see when you look at the confident, powerful woman in the mirror in front of you?

I bet you don’t see the power or the confidence, it’s more likely you are standing there picking holes in your appearance, weight, a spot, your hair, the way your thighs look or the way you dress.

It has become the norm to look in the mirror with hatred / shame. Social media has a huge impact for so many men and women in the world.

There’s a great saying and it really is so true…

Logic & Emotion do not mix

Your goddess self, does not start with how you look, it starts with how you feel. How do you feel about yourself?

Here are 10 ways you are destroying your inner goddess, you:

  1. Hate to look in the mirror
  2. Find fault in everything you do / say
  3. Can’t see the good in you
  4. Avoid taking risks
  5. Can’t deal with disappointment
  6. Don’t allow yourself to be ambitious
  7. Compare yourself to others
  8. Don’t accept yourself
  9. Self sabotage your goals
  10. Are living to please others

Can you resonate with any of these? Of course there are lots more we could add to the list, but I’m sure you get the jist.

One of my beliefs for many many years was ‘I’m not your typical girl, I should’ve been a man’ – I didn’t want to be a man, but at the same time I didn’t want to be a Barbie doll, woman. I didn’t look in the mirror and see beauty, I avoided looking in the mirror and only did my hair / make up when I really had to.

(Running around after 3 kids and working – I had no time for beauty and self care and I was content with that)

There were many reasons I could find to not look in the mirror or even want to dress up and put make up on. I decided that a more natural look suited me for the best. But then something changed… it was like a switch had been turned on, I won’t bore you with the details but I was able to look in the mirror and see a side of me I refused to for so long.

I learnt to love myself little by little and the woman in the mirror in my eyes changed.

So what is it within us that makes us believe when we look in the mirror that we are not feminine goddesses?

(Granted not everyone wants this, but let’s focus on those that do want to see that powerful confident woman staring back at them)

 

How we think and how we feel really impacts our self judgement, but also clouds our vision to what we see in the mirror.

I’m the first to admit, that a glamour model is not my idea of where I want to be. Being able to look in the mirror with confidence and not shame, guilt, hatred, despair is a massive turn around. When our self judgement clouds us, the person staring back at us in the mirror is not what we see.

The reflection I saw was how I perceived me. I had no self esteem, no self love and I had no self worth.

My message to you today, is stop, take a break and see the beauty within, because whether you can see it or not you are a powerful, beautiful, confident in your unique way.

The first step to finding your inner goddess starts with self love. Take a moment each day to recognise this beauty, the beauty of your heart. Your heart says alot about who you really are. Stop and listen to what your heart says.

Be the goddess you are, and learn to love every inch of you 🌟