Powerful affirmations
confidence, life coaching, Self belief, Self development, self love

The power of positive and powerful affirmations

Your self talk sometimes needs training to be more positive and less limiting. This is when the power of positive and powerful affirmations empowers us to change our mindset.

The negative mind chatter, can create real havoc with our confidence, self esteem, and when we are in a place of judging others we are also under the spell of continuously judging ourselves. To be more than we currently are. But… not in a positive and self accepting way. This is when we find ourselves in constant conflict with our thoughts and feelings.

When do I know I need positive and powerful affirmations?

This is a question my clients ask me often. The truth is, we need powerful and positive affirmations everyday. They are the pinnacle of our drive, our focus, our determination, our motivation and our dreams.

It’s even more important to use powerful and positive affirmations when we are having a bad day. The powerful and positive messages we receive from the affirmations we give ourselves can really help us get through the bad days and they also inspire and encourage us on good days. Using powerful and positive affirmations gives us a clue to how we are feeling and where our negative belief systems are taking us.

The trick is to use powerful and positive affirmations each and everyday! Here’s 5 things you will notice if you use powerful and positive affirmations every day:

  1. Increase your self belief – if you repeat the same affirmation over and over but at the start notice you don’t believe in the affirmation, within a week your thoughts and feelings become aligned to this affirmation which in turn increases your self belief.
  2. Confidence grows – affirmations are amazingly beautiful at changing the way we think and feel about ourselves, as we develop belief in the affirmations we use we feel they are true and in turn we become more confident.
  3. Physical and mental energy increases – when you use these positive and powerful affirmations daily your inner critics and your negative self talk dissipates, in turn thus increases your positivity and your energy levels increase
  4. Find strength to conquer your fears – when you believe in the positive affirmations you tell yourself everyday you find a strength within you to really let go of the fear, without realising you are doing it.
  5. Feel better in yourself – by replacing negative thoughts with powerful and positive affirmations you create a space for you to feel good, vibrant and at peace with who you are.

This list is not exhaustive.

Here are some examples to help you along the way, keeping it simple, which one will you start with:

🦋 I’m free to be me, each and everyday

🦋 I’m happy and full of joy, more and more everyday

🦋 I’m safe and at peace with life as it stands

🦋 I am in control, with calm confidence

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Visualise the confident woman you want to be 💫

Confident women  don’t grow on trees. Confidence grows from within you. It takes time to establish it. Especially if you have struggled with it. Consumed with fear, anxiety, judgements.

I still remember the days when I could barely look in the mirror, I didn’t like the reflection staring back at me. It caused me so much discomfort. Photos I hated with a passion. Deep down I knew I wasn’t happy, and I felt completely helpless. Everything I tried didn’t make any difference.

As I travelled through the days, weeks and months I had just accepted that I was ‘ugly’ full of flaws and imperfections that I could not accept.

Those days were dark, distant, confusing. I wished I was someone else. Anyone but me.

As time passed I took action to make small steps to move myself forward, I had to. My children needed me to woman up and sort out my insecurities.

My journey was tough, it was hard facing reality, when I all knew was to ignore it, keep suppressing it. When I found EFT I realised there was so much of me that was just not what I thought, my negative perceptions of myself were not true at all… they were all part of things I had been taught, told, made to believe.

As I progressed through learning EFT as a practitioner, I found some peace, and my energy was shifting, my confidence was coming back. As I plodded through my emotional state I noticed little shifts, and from this there was a realisation that if I wasn’t clear on what I truly wanted how would I grow into the woman I wanted to be.

I started taking small steps everyday. Below is how I implemented Visualisation to help me grow into the woman I am today 🥰

Step 1. Find a quiet space where you can close your eyes and simply breathe.

Step 2. Begin to focus on a place where you feel at peace, the beach, an open meadow, a castle, in your garden, in your room. A place that is warm, open and inviting. A place where peace and gratitude fill you to just be yourself.

Step 3. Listen to what is around you, if you are on a beach is there gentle waves, in a Field is the wind rustling the grass leaves, pay real attention to what is going on around you.

Step 4. Remember this is your space, your space to just be. Your space to do what you want with no judgement. Imagine that your confidence is shining through you. Visualise yourself as the confident woman you want to be. Do you want to dance without fear of judgment? Do you want to shout and say all the things that you don’t have the confidence to normally. Visualise as much as you can through this experience being specific and factual about what you want.

Step 5. Repeat this exercise every single day… letting go of the negative self talk, ignoring those limiting beliefs, you can be anything you want. You ARE a confident woman. This exercise will help you remember how confident, free and beautiful you are.

Step 6. Persist! Even if you are having a day when you can’t be bothered, do it anyway.

Step 7. Embrace the confidence that lies within you, it’s waiting for you to show up.

 

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Confident

Confidence
28 Days to Personal Power, life coaching, negative beliefs, Self belief, Self development

Confidence, Empowerment, Commitment

Confidence, Empowerment, Commitment  these powerful words can really frighten some people. The thought of feeling powerful in themselves is so alien they have forgotten how to be.

I know only too well how that feels, to not have the confidence to face the simple things, to feel so disempowered your close to the edge, to not have the ability to commit to yourself, let alone anything else.  Sometimes life can feel like a rollercoaster, you get up in the morning and really want to take charge of the day, but inside you don’t know if you can. The day will either go one of two ways:  You will either say nope… I’m doing this today, and you step into your power. Or… you look at the outside world through your window and say… nope, not today. I just can’t face it.Both of these are perfectly acceptable, it’s life, we have good days. We have bad days. It’s not the end of the world.

The difference is, when you are living a confident, empowering and committed life, you are not focussing on beating yourself up for the bad days Can I work with you? You focus solely on getting through the bad days guilt free. We are human, we get tired, we feel drained and sometimes we just need to re-charge.

To feel empowered is to feel free from the inner critic, to feel confident is to be free from the human self persecution of ‘I’m not good enough’, to be able to commit to yourself means you are free to make those choices that you crave from the inside out.

How did I manage to find my confidence, to empower myself to commit to me? Well… here goes:

1. Release the judgment you place on yourself. Remove all shoulds / coulds and would haves from your vocabulary

2. Refuse to listen to your inner critic! It’s just a bad vibe that has raised its ugly head once to often… your inner critic DOES NOT SERVE YOU. It hinders you and holds you back, it tells you no, you can’t and prevents you from forgiving your past mistakes and yourself.

3. To commit to yourself you must believe in yourself, re-train your brain to find the positives in your everyday life. You ARE worth committing to! Putting everyone else first is no longer an option… it is not selfish, it’s YOUR life.

4. Grab a journal, and start writing every day, once you have written how you feel, what you want and what’s happening around you, re-read those words to yourself… would you say that to your best friend, what advice would you give your best friend?

5. Make a list… one small list every day of all the good things you do, all the small achievements. Have you had a shower today? Brushed your teeth? Combed your hair? These are all very basic, but very much positive achievements to write about!

6. Be kind to you, being kind to yourself and learning to be your own best friend instead of judging, criticising and doubting yourself… is another step towards you living a confident, empowered and committed life

And last but no means least, my final tip for today is to access holistic therapies. I fully promote EFT, Reiki and other holistic therapies as a way to help you re-wire your brain through energetic shifts. Negative energy is all around us and drains us each and every day. Embrace some energy healing and see if you feel a difference in yourself.

Be your own best friend… and if you need help finding your inner best friend, ask for help 💖

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Happy
life coaching, negative beliefs, Relationships, Self belief

When will you decide to be happy?

I wasn’t truly happy…

remembering those days when nothing I did was good enough. Every corner I turned there was another obstacle, another problem, another issue.

My life was based around other people being happy, and when they weren’t happy I couldn’t be. Happy

As life went on, this became a habit. I wouldn’t allow myself to be happy… then I established this old belief that if I ‘get happy’ more s*** would hit the fan! I wasn’t wrong in that belief due to the circumstances I was in. But… as I changed my life, this old habit stayed with me! This old belief wouldn’t go, so for some time I remained unhappy!

There was always something to complain about or be sad about, or be problematic in my life.

This belief was based on experience, I could not allow myself to be happy, as if I was something / someone would come along and crush that  joy within me.

This was a hard lesson for me to learn, for me to be truly happy within, I had to learn ‘how’! Crazy stuff right there! Are you are in this space? Get in touch! 

When you are surrounded by critical people who are unhappy in themselves, you can pick up their traits and adopt these behaviours particularly if you have been around it for some time.

Being truly happy means to be content in your own skin! No longer allowing your flaws to be a problem. EMBRACE the flaws within you... you are a unique being, not part of the crowd and you definitely do not have to ‘fit’ inside their box!

CREATE YOUR OWN BOX

Happy

What makes you happy? Make a list of the things that fill your heart with joy… make a list of the hobbies you do, find gratitude in your life and amazing things start to happen!

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Stepping into your goddess power… daunting eh?

Are you afraid of being the true Goddess you are?

I can’t speak / write for every other female in the world, but I am assured I have hit the nail on the head with this one… bare with me.

What do you see when you look at the confident, powerful woman in the mirror in front of you?

I bet you don’t see the power or the confidence, it’s more likely you are standing there picking holes in your appearance, weight, a spot, your hair, the way your thighs look or the way you dress.

It has become the norm to look in the mirror with hatred / shame. Social media has a huge impact for so many men and women in the world.

There’s a great saying and it really is so true…

Logic & Emotion do not mix

Your goddess self, does not start with how you look, it starts with how you feel. How do you feel about yourself?

Here are 10 ways you are destroying your inner goddess, you:

  1. Hate to look in the mirror
  2. Find fault in everything you do / say
  3. Can’t see the good in you
  4. Avoid taking risks
  5. Can’t deal with disappointment
  6. Don’t allow yourself to be ambitious
  7. Compare yourself to others
  8. Don’t accept yourself
  9. Self sabotage your goals
  10. Are living to please others

Can you resonate with any of these? Of course there are lots more we could add to the list, but I’m sure you get the jist.

One of my beliefs for many many years was ‘I’m not your typical girl, I should’ve been a man’ – I didn’t want to be a man, but at the same time I didn’t want to be a Barbie doll, woman. I didn’t look in the mirror and see beauty, I avoided looking in the mirror and only did my hair / make up when I really had to.

(Running around after 3 kids and working – I had no time for beauty and self care and I was content with that)

There were many reasons I could find to not look in the mirror or even want to dress up and put make up on. I decided that a more natural look suited me for the best. But then something changed… it was like a switch had been turned on, I won’t bore you with the details but I was able to look in the mirror and see a side of me I refused to for so long.

I learnt to love myself little by little and the woman in the mirror in my eyes changed.

So what is it within us that makes us believe when we look in the mirror that we are not feminine goddesses?

(Granted not everyone wants this, but let’s focus on those that do want to see that powerful confident woman staring back at them)

 

How we think and how we feel really impacts our self judgement, but also clouds our vision to what we see in the mirror.

I’m the first to admit, that a glamour model is not my idea of where I want to be. Being able to look in the mirror with confidence and not shame, guilt, hatred, despair is a massive turn around. When our self judgement clouds us, the person staring back at us in the mirror is not what we see.

The reflection I saw was how I perceived me. I had no self esteem, no self love and I had no self worth.

My message to you today, is stop, take a break and see the beauty within, because whether you can see it or not you are a powerful, beautiful, confident in your unique way.

The first step to finding your inner goddess starts with self love. Take a moment each day to recognise this beauty, the beauty of your heart. Your heart says alot about who you really are. Stop and listen to what your heart says.

Be the goddess you are, and learn to love every inch of you 🌟