confidence, life coaching, Mumpreneur, Relationships, Self belief, Self development, self love

Visualise the confident woman you want to be 💫

Confident women  don’t grow on trees. Confidence grows from within you. It takes time to establish it. Especially if you have struggled with it. Consumed with fear, anxiety, judgements.

I still remember the days when I could barely look in the mirror, I didn’t like the reflection staring back at me. It caused me so much discomfort. Photos I hated with a passion. Deep down I knew I wasn’t happy, and I felt completely helpless. Everything I tried didn’t make any difference.

As I travelled through the days, weeks and months I had just accepted that I was ‘ugly’ full of flaws and imperfections that I could not accept.

Those days were dark, distant, confusing. I wished I was someone else. Anyone but me.

As time passed I took action to make small steps to move myself forward, I had to. My children needed me to woman up and sort out my insecurities.

My journey was tough, it was hard facing reality, when I all knew was to ignore it, keep suppressing it. When I found EFT I realised there was so much of me that was just not what I thought, my negative perceptions of myself were not true at all… they were all part of things I had been taught, told, made to believe.

As I progressed through learning EFT as a practitioner, I found some peace, and my energy was shifting, my confidence was coming back. As I plodded through my emotional state I noticed little shifts, and from this there was a realisation that if I wasn’t clear on what I truly wanted how would I grow into the woman I wanted to be.

I started taking small steps everyday. Below is how I implemented Visualisation to help me grow into the woman I am today 🥰

Step 1. Find a quiet space where you can close your eyes and simply breathe.

Step 2. Begin to focus on a place where you feel at peace, the beach, an open meadow, a castle, in your garden, in your room. A place that is warm, open and inviting. A place where peace and gratitude fill you to just be yourself.

Step 3. Listen to what is around you, if you are on a beach is there gentle waves, in a Field is the wind rustling the grass leaves, pay real attention to what is going on around you.

Step 4. Remember this is your space, your space to just be. Your space to do what you want with no judgement. Imagine that your confidence is shining through you. Visualise yourself as the confident woman you want to be. Do you want to dance without fear of judgment? Do you want to shout and say all the things that you don’t have the confidence to normally. Visualise as much as you can through this experience being specific and factual about what you want.

Step 5. Repeat this exercise every single day… letting go of the negative self talk, ignoring those limiting beliefs, you can be anything you want. You ARE a confident woman. This exercise will help you remember how confident, free and beautiful you are.

Step 6. Persist! Even if you are having a day when you can’t be bothered, do it anyway.

Step 7. Embrace the confidence that lies within you, it’s waiting for you to show up.

 

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28 Days to Personal Power, life coaching, Mumpreneur, Relationships, Self development

Transform your LIFE, because you can!

Transform your life, you deserve to live your best life

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When you choose to transform your life, you will be empowered, feel focused, have increased motivation, be clear in what you want, believe in yourself again, feel confident, have less anxiety and fear, notice a more positive mindset, live a life you LOVE.

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Mumpreneur, Self belief, Self development, self love

Stepping into your goddess power… daunting eh?

Are you afraid of being the true Goddess you are?

I can’t speak / write for every other female in the world, but I am assured I have hit the nail on the head with this one… bare with me.

What do you see when you look at the confident, powerful woman in the mirror in front of you?

I bet you don’t see the power or the confidence, it’s more likely you are standing there picking holes in your appearance, weight, a spot, your hair, the way your thighs look or the way you dress.

It has become the norm to look in the mirror with hatred / shame. Social media has a huge impact for so many men and women in the world.

There’s a great saying and it really is so true…

Logic & Emotion do not mix

Your goddess self, does not start with how you look, it starts with how you feel. How do you feel about yourself?

Here are 10 ways you are destroying your inner goddess, you:

  1. Hate to look in the mirror
  2. Find fault in everything you do / say
  3. Can’t see the good in you
  4. Avoid taking risks
  5. Can’t deal with disappointment
  6. Don’t allow yourself to be ambitious
  7. Compare yourself to others
  8. Don’t accept yourself
  9. Self sabotage your goals
  10. Are living to please others

Can you resonate with any of these? Of course there are lots more we could add to the list, but I’m sure you get the jist.

One of my beliefs for many many years was ‘I’m not your typical girl, I should’ve been a man’ – I didn’t want to be a man, but at the same time I didn’t want to be a Barbie doll, woman. I didn’t look in the mirror and see beauty, I avoided looking in the mirror and only did my hair / make up when I really had to.

(Running around after 3 kids and working – I had no time for beauty and self care and I was content with that)

There were many reasons I could find to not look in the mirror or even want to dress up and put make up on. I decided that a more natural look suited me for the best. But then something changed… it was like a switch had been turned on, I won’t bore you with the details but I was able to look in the mirror and see a side of me I refused to for so long.

I learnt to love myself little by little and the woman in the mirror in my eyes changed.

So what is it within us that makes us believe when we look in the mirror that we are not feminine goddesses?

(Granted not everyone wants this, but let’s focus on those that do want to see that powerful confident woman staring back at them)

 

How we think and how we feel really impacts our self judgement, but also clouds our vision to what we see in the mirror.

I’m the first to admit, that a glamour model is not my idea of where I want to be. Being able to look in the mirror with confidence and not shame, guilt, hatred, despair is a massive turn around. When our self judgement clouds us, the person staring back at us in the mirror is not what we see.

The reflection I saw was how I perceived me. I had no self esteem, no self love and I had no self worth.

My message to you today, is stop, take a break and see the beauty within, because whether you can see it or not you are a powerful, beautiful, confident in your unique way.

The first step to finding your inner goddess starts with self love. Take a moment each day to recognise this beauty, the beauty of your heart. Your heart says alot about who you really are. Stop and listen to what your heart says.

Be the goddess you are, and learn to love every inch of you 🌟

Mumpreneur
life coaching, Mumpreneur, Self belief

Mumpreneurs are not crazy…

Mumpreneurs are not crazy, they are superstars!

Dearest Mumpreneurs… Are you tired of being stuck, frustrated that life doesn’t seem to get any better and then just as you take a step forward you feel like you’ve taken 100 back all over again?Mumpreneur

This is tiring, imagine running a business, looking after children, keeping the home running, maintaining a social life, relationships and being there for friends and family as well as dealing with the frustrating cycle life seems to keep you stuck in! It can seem impossible can’t it? If you are a mumpreneur reading this, I know you can relate to this. Because you are actively doing it, SUPERMUMS are not to be underestimated. I was once asked, “well what do you do in a day you sit at home, on the computer and have it ‘easy’ ”

I won’t tell you what profanities came out of my mouth that day! (I’m only human). I thought to myself you know what, let me list everything I do in a day and then you can tell me I have it easy. So I did! I wrote down every task, errand, housework, meal, school run and nursery run, and meetings. The time my day started and the time my day finished. I can confirm it’s no wonder I hit burn out 2 years after this point. mumpreneur

I was so determined to push myself into the ground, by running a business and looking after everything else. To this day I still do not know how I managed to keep it all up. Some of my days would start at 5am and not finish til 2am.

How do so many mumpreneurs cope? How on earth is this living your best life? This sounds like a massive headache, that drains every inch of life out of you, until one day something gives. This can be your heart and soul, your business, your relationships, your social life, the home… but the children; well they are on a planet of their own, they have ten thousand demands a day. Mumpreneurs have to PLAN, ORGANISE AND SCHEDULE THEIR LIVES, without strategic planning they fall apart, or worse, go through burn out.

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Are you the mumpreneur that can relate to this?

When you look on social media and people post so much about happy they are, how perfect their life is. How amazing their children are, these perfect shining stars that are just so clever and fabulous. Yet here you are scrubbing breakfast off the wall whilst booking that business meeting… I am deadly serious. This was how my life used to be! Having 3 children under the age of 8 and running a business was definitely one of my most challenging times in business. I’m very pleased to say my children are now older and the physical strain of raising children is definitely less. Mumpreneurs make it work

Do I still juggle?

Yes of course I do, if I didn’t juggle and work around the kids, their clubs, their social life, they wouldn’t be happy and I would be pulling my hair out. I prefer to use the term ‘effective time management’. Mumpreneurs juggle so they can be there for their children and their business.

How do I manage it all?

Firstly I’m a mumprenuer – I make it work, as all mumpreneurs do. I pace myself, set SMART goals, sleep well and ask for help when I need it. As a single parent, you have to use effective time management skills, you have to plan everything strategically.

Key things to remember for all Mumpreneurs:

  • You are human
  • You need ME time
  • It does get easier
  • Little ones grow very fast
  • Enjoy the now
  • Pace yourself
  • Relax and breathe
  • Everything will all come together in time
  • Give yourself a break
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Mumpreneur – give yourself a break, you are doing the best you can and that is enough
28 Days to Personal Power, life coaching, Mumpreneur, negative beliefs, Self belief, Self development, self love, self sabotage

10 signs you are not accepting yourself

It’s so easy to fall into a negative dark hole and not accepting yourself. Especially if you have suffered traumatic events / abuse in your life. It still surprises me to this day how other people can impact who we are and what we want to achieve from life. If we let them. 

Just get over it they say, let it go they say, but is that enough? Is it really that simple? Of course it’s not. You have to work at it and continue to work at it. If you have ever hit rock bottom you will know what I mean. Hitting rock bottom can happen to anyone and majority of people at some point through life may feel like they have hit the deck and cannot get up again.

The good news is you can get back up again, and when you do you will find a whole new life awaits you, but it’s down to you to change the life you were living that made you hit rock bottom.

Life is a cycle of change, there ups and downs, we can even go round and round in circles and feel as though you are on a roller-coaster, however; this is life. Life isn’t all about beautiful smelling flowers, breathtaking sceneries although these little things certainly do help. It can get tough! Whether you are running a business, raising children, overcoming a health condition, fighting something that is out of your control. It really doesn’t matter what life path you are on, challenges come at us. These challenges that you face are not to make your life difficult, they are processes to help you. They show us that we are stronger than we think. You can overcome anything you want to… IF YOU CAN FULLY ACCEPT YOURSELF.

When you accept yourself as the beautiful soul you are, you lose these negative traits and life seems so much easier.

Here are 10 signs you are not accepting the beautiful soul you:

  •  feel fearful / anxious regularly Accepting yourself
  •  doubt yourself
  •  try to please everyone else
  •  struggle to find gratitude for what you do have
  •  need validation from everyone that you are doing the ‘right thing’
  •  have low self esteem and self sabotage runs your life
  •  compare yourself to others all the time
  •  have critical self talk regularly
  •  struggle to forgive yourself
  •  can’t love yourself

There are so many other traits we could add to this list, but I figured 10 was more than enough. So often I hear clients say, I can’t accept myself, how can I? I’ve been through so much there must be something wrong with me. This person told me I was useless and now I believe it. This person told me I was pathetic, and now I believe it. When you believe the negative you are entering into stuckness. You are entering into a world that is dark and difficult to climb out of. Remember; this is OK. Sometimes you need to enter into a darker space to give yourself space and time to deal with it. However; you don’t have to. You do have a choice and support is all around you if you can allow yourself to see it.

When you are living in self rejection, life can get hard, if you reject who you are as an individual you cannot accept the things you need everyday, you find yourself falling into self sabotage, lacking kindness, you may also find your emotions begin to rule your life. You don’t have to live this way. When life has hit you with several hundred curve balls, just remember you are not alone. It can feel lonely though, it can feel as though no-one could possibly understand what you are going through, this is more prominent in those who have suffered abuse. If you would like support please do join us in our Facebook Community. Click Here.

How can we turn this around?

A) Be kind to yourself

B) Find forgiveness for you and for others

C) Make a list of all the positive things you have done in your life to date – put it somewhere that you can see it every day

D) Change your self talk to positive – write down one good thing about yourself everyday

E) Accept how you feel – it’s OK to have feelings, you have the right to feel anything you want to. This doesn’t mean you have to let the feelings rule you.

F) Look within, do things that make you happy. Do things that make you smile. Find things you enjoy.

There are so many other things you can do to help yourself this is just a short guidance to help you.

The world really is your oyster, and this is all starts with you. Accept yourself as you are and watch all the negative float away

Can you imagine what it is like to fully accept yourself for all that you are and all that you want / need? 

Key things to remember: 

  • You are worthy and deserving
  • You are amazing just as you are
  • Your inner star is waiting for you to show up