It’s so easy to fall into a negative dark hole and not accepting yourself. Especially if you have suffered traumatic events / abuse in your life. It still surprises me to this day how other people can impact who we are and what we want to achieve from life. If we let them.
Just get over it they say, let it go they say, but is that enough? Is it really that simple? Of course it’s not. You have to work at it and continue to work at it. If you have ever hit rock bottom you will know what I mean. Hitting rock bottom can happen to anyone and majority of people at some point through life may feel like they have hit the deck and cannot get up again.
The good news is you can get back up again, and when you do you will find a whole new life awaits you, but it’s down to you to change the life you were living that made you hit rock bottom.
Life is a cycle of change, there ups and downs, we can even go round and round in circles and feel as though you are on a roller-coaster, however; this is life. Life isn’t all about beautiful smelling flowers, breathtaking sceneries although these little things certainly do help. It can get tough! Whether you are running a business, raising children, overcoming a health condition, fighting something that is out of your control. It really doesn’t matter what life path you are on, challenges come at us. These challenges that you face are not to make your life difficult, they are processes to help you. They show us that we are stronger than we think. You can overcome anything you want to… IF YOU CAN FULLY ACCEPT YOURSELF.
When you accept yourself as the beautiful soul you are, you lose these negative traits and life seems so much easier.
Here are 10 signs you are not accepting the beautiful soul you:
- feel fearful / anxious regularly
- doubt yourself
- try to please everyone else
- struggle to find gratitude for what you do have
- need validation from everyone that you are doing the ‘right thing’
- have low self esteem and self sabotage runs your life
- compare yourself to others all the time
- have critical self talk regularly
- struggle to forgive yourself
- can’t love yourself
There are so many other traits we could add to this list, but I figured 10 was more than enough. So often I hear clients say, I can’t accept myself, how can I? I’ve been through so much there must be something wrong with me. This person told me I was useless and now I believe it. This person told me I was pathetic, and now I believe it. When you believe the negative you are entering into stuckness. You are entering into a world that is dark and difficult to climb out of. Remember; this is OK. Sometimes you need to enter into a darker space to give yourself space and time to deal with it. However; you don’t have to. You do have a choice and support is all around you if you can allow yourself to see it.
When you are living in self rejection, life can get hard, if you reject who you are as an individual you cannot accept the things you need everyday, you find yourself falling into self sabotage, lacking kindness, you may also find your emotions begin to rule your life. You don’t have to live this way. When life has hit you with several hundred curve balls, just remember you are not alone. It can feel lonely though, it can feel as though no-one could possibly understand what you are going through, this is more prominent in those who have suffered abuse. If you would like support please do join us in our Facebook Community. Click Here.
How can we turn this around?
A) Be kind to yourself
B) Find forgiveness for you and for others
C) Make a list of all the positive things you have done in your life to date – put it somewhere that you can see it every day
D) Change your self talk to positive – write down one good thing about yourself everyday
E) Accept how you feel – it’s OK to have feelings, you have the right to feel anything you want to. This doesn’t mean you have to let the feelings rule you.
F) Look within, do things that make you happy. Do things that make you smile. Find things you enjoy.
There are so many other things you can do to help yourself this is just a short guidance to help you.
The world really is your oyster, and this is all starts with you. Accept yourself as you are and watch all the negative float away.
Can you imagine what it is like to fully accept yourself for all that you are and all that you want / need?
Key things to remember:
- You are worthy and deserving
- You are amazing just as you are
- Your inner star is waiting for you to show up